“Love is magical.”
Since childhood I have always heard and read - Love is magical. Well , the concept of love is somehow a subjective one. Different people may vary in their views about Love but no one will deny the fact that yes it is magical. Whether it gives magic to life or it is spending life with your beloved that provides the magic… is still debatable. So, at the end what matters, whether you were ever in love or whether you are spending your life with your beloved? Again people may differ in this but in this article I would present my view point. You might consider it right or wrong – whatever you like but I don’t believe in this concept of right and wrong, good or evil( oh yes, I am a follower of Blake and so I do follow the Blakean concepts).
Love is surely magical and when you fall in love you are not even aware of it. It may take a day, a week , a month or even years. But for loving someone you need to know that person and then it depends on you how much time it takes you to understand somebody. When you fall in love with somebody, its not his virtues or vices that you fall in love with, its not his family, its not his education, its not his salary, its his whole being that makes you love him. And the most important thing in any relationship is, that other person should love you too. The relationship is based on trust and love but you shouldn’t be comparing the love of two persons, because it can not be. Being in love is like being pregnant – either you are or you are not. Once you get ahead in your relationship then you start thinking about its future, in this case – marriage!
Well, its good, pretty good if you both can marry but what if you can’t ? If from the day one you know you can not marry, then is it fine to continue with the relationship or it should be abandoned? And what if in the middle of it you realize that it doesn’t have any future? And what if nothing is certain and you can hope of something? I didn’t know answers of all these but since a few days I have been trying to find out answers. And here is my stand :
Even if in the beginning you know that you can’t marry then also you can not stop yourself from falling in love. Because falling in love with someone is not an intentional and deliberate process, you just start loving someone. But yes if you know right from the beginning that it doesn’t have any future then you have to set your limits according to that, e.g. you should not be expecting to get married. Here I want to discuss one more thing. I don’t believe in any limits except the ones set up by your own conscience. Society sets up limit according to its own greedy and selfish reasons, you shouldn’t be allowing society to judge you or set your limit but surely you should be listening to your conscience at every step in your life. Bhagvad Gita says that if you are right then Lord Krishna is always by your side. So who tells you whether you are on the right track or not, its your own conscience. Because again the concept of right and wrong differs from person to person. What is right for one person can be wrong for another. So listen to your conscience, it will never let you down and it will tell you what is right and what is wrong. Sorry for the digression, lets continue with our topic. So, after setting your limits you should have courage enough to accept that you two will never get married so shouldn’t be dreaming in that direction.
Hmm.. so what if in the middle of the relationship you realize it does not have any future? In this case, I think you should try your best to make it possible. If you are not able to see any solution then you should consult someone. You should give the problem some time and should look out for the solution rather than focusing on the problem. Every problem has a solution. It should not be that just because we know we can not marry lets abandon the relationship… because mind it, it is so very easy to say than to do it. It’s not an easy task to forget your love. I have often heard someone or the other person committing suicide for this very reason. Generally people say it is stupidity to end your life for one person, life does not end at one person. Very true. But I would like to mention here that when someone commits suicide, at that very moment he is not aware of anything else than his love and the inability to possess his love. At that moment he does not give it a thought that his step will make his beloved suffer too, that there are many more people in this world who love him, who will suffer after he is gone. At that moment he doesn’t realize that Love is not just about possessing your love; he doesn’t realize that there are people who have never loved; who have never been loved and he was lucky to fall in love; he was lucky to feel that magic. What he remembers is just that I love … and I can not marry her. But suicide is not a solution for anything, “it is a permanent solution for a temporary problem”. So what if, after every possible thing, you still are not able to marry your love? Does that mean the end of life? Yes, for a few minutes, a few days, a few years it might seem so but it is not. You can not stop living at any cost. Bhagavad-Gita says that every body comes with its count of breaths and you can not die before or after that. You need to complete those counts to depart form this world.
Being in love is in itself magical. Off course marrying your love is feeling that magic once again and for the rest of your life but…but…but. ..if any case, due to any reasons you are not able to feel that magic for your whole life does not mean that you should abandon an ordinary life too. You have to live for those who love you. You have to live to fulfill the purpose of your life; and most importantly you have to live for the magic that you have experienced. Love is a savior, it’s not a killer. It teaches you how to live; not how to end your life. It is life giving; not life taking. Love makes you see the brighter side of life. I agree that when you lose your love, it is choking but you are supposed to come out of it alive because if, after the magical experience of love, you fail in your life, then you are making your love fail and a lover can never make his love fail!
So, according to me falling in love is magical and those moments should be treasured with proper care and love, whether you marry or not, those moments will always be the MOST MAGICAL ONES!
Open your hearts and let Love enter, without any conditions!!!
1 comment:
Hey babes.......well written...as always :) ....Bt sumwhere sumhw I feel u hv dun complete injustice to the word Luv(Dnt mind Okie....just an opinion ;) Well, U may b right Luv is magical, and when u fall in luv its just with the Human being, but sweety u cnt 4rgt that the reality is sumthng else...after a certain point when u gt married u marry hi/her whole family,it is den education counts,it is when u live ur own individual life and ofcourse u cnt b ignorant of it as it will only cause u further frustrations...I guess u r also wrong when u say Society doesnot matters...coz it does if we be a littl practicl(whcih mayb impossibl 4r ppl who r in luv.) Its a society we r living in, nd we cnt disown it at any cost,and to even think we can is mere immaturity. Wud not say ur thoughts r wrong....bt defnlty dis shud nt b the way life nd luv shud b handled...Yes true every one hs his/her own views bt den u cnt deny sumthng hs 2 b correct, morally. Nd mayb u r just trying 2 ignore it?? hmm....no plz dnt feel sad nd disspaointed...aftr readin it just felt like showing u the othr window....Luv is blind...bt it cn often ruin u if one shut one's eyes when we r in luv..wat matters at the end of the day is peace and if we end up with so may fears, worries, questions, contradictions, doubts......den hw is luv worth 4r????????????
Luv :)
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